Kapil Gupta kendini CEO’ların, profesyonel atletlerin ve ünlülerin kişisel danışmanı olarak tanıtıyor. İddialı bir tanıtım ve bu işte ne kadar iyi bilemiyorum.
Yine iddialı bir isme sahip olan Direct Truth adlı kitabı hakkında yazmak istedim.
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WHAT IS ANGER?
Q: What is anger?
A: An energy.
Q: Why does it arise?
A: Anger is born of unfulfilled desire. It is born of unfulfilled expectation.
Q: Where there is no desire or expectation, there can be no anger?
A: That is correct.
WHY DOES ONE HAVE GREAT SUCCESS, WHILE ANOTHER STRUGGLES?
Q: Why does one person have great success, while another person struggles?
A: There are some fundamental reasons for this.
Q: I would love to hear them.
A: There is one reason in particular. If your question is invested with a sincere desire to know, you will welcome it. If it is not, you will succumb to the outrage that your mind is likely to create.
Q: I understand. I’m ready.
A: One enjoys success. While the other enjoys struggle.
Q: May I confess something to you?
Q: My mind is beginning its outrage. It’s creating a thousand and one questions.
A: And what of your heart? What does it say?
Q: My heart feels very different.
A: I know it does.
Q: How do you know?
A: Because you admitted the outrage, without allowing yourself to succumb to it.
Q: I see. I do have questions, if I may?
Q: Can a man really enjoy struggle?
A: If you examine professional athletes, for example, you will notice a pattern. Some will speak endlessly of their successes. Others will speak endlessly of their failures. They may not do it overtly. But subtly. They will get across the message that is most prevalent in their mind. What they think of themselves will dictate what they choose to share and withhold from others.
Q: And what can be learned from such behavior?
A: That the successful identify themselves as successes. While those who struggle identify themselves as unfortunate failures. The successful view themselves as conquerors. While those who struggle view themselves as victims of circumstance.
Q: Why would an individual view himself as a victim of circumstance, rather than become a conqueror?
A: The fear of having to leave behind the comfort of his identity. The fear of loss.
Q: The fear of loss? He already loses. What more could he lose?
A: The luxury of self-pity. The sympathies of victimhood. Such things are not easily sacrificed.